“Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” ~ Einstein.
Some people have clarity of purpose. You can see it in their behavior, attitude, and results. But for others (you may know someone like this), they have nothing more than a fuzzy idea of what they want for today, tomorrow or next week.
Many people struggle to come up with a coherent answer when they are asked the big question: What do you really want out of your life, long-term?
Do you know what you want?
Some standard responses include: “I’m not sure,” or, “I live for today and let tomorrow take care of itself.” Some people have a restrained version of their ambitions because they are afraid to think too big, as they may fail or be criticized.
If Einstein is right, then that’s exactly what they will experience: uncertainty, random results and unfulfilled aspirations.
It’s often a struggle to take initiative and have enthusiasm for our goals if we’ve lost touch with the life we really want to live. Here are several tricks to help you get back in touch with the life you want for your life.
1. Heal the past. It’s tough to move ahead when you’re anchored to the past. Letting go of the old, untrue stories we tell ourselves and others is the key that can release us from our limiting beliefs. Healing the past acts as a springboard for releasing ourselves to pursue a meaningful future.
2. Know thyself. Taking a self-inventory of our skills, abilities and interests rekindles our enthusiasm for the desires we may have forgotten. It helps us confirm and/or rediscover our true avocation.
3. Be bold in thinking, not hasty in action. If hasty decisions or thinking small got you to where you are now perhaps it’s time for a change. Maybe it’s a total about face – leaving a career or relationship for something new. Or maybe it’s just re-imagining your current situation. For example, if you’re a journalist, instead of quitting writing try your hand at a novel. Or if you love to cook, take cooking classes and consider catering or working as a chef.
We all get to choose our own reality; self-assurance vs. uncertainty, intentional effort vs. random results, and contentment over our accomplishments vs. unfulfilled aspirations.
Facing the past, getting to know yourself, and taking action can feel unfamiliar and even a bit scary at first. But once you make the effort, you’ll find clarity and discover what it is you really want. By doing so, as Einstein suggests, the universe will respond in kind.
What reality do you want for your life?
Learn more about my upcoming workshop Lighting Your Fire: Sparking Your Inner Motivation to Achieve Your Goals!
Terri O'Donnell is a certified Life Coach. She is an honest, straight shooter who is dedicated to using her training and experience to help people live the life they desire.