I am getting ready to depart for a River Cruise that will include extensive bike riding. While I started riding for my husband, back at the beginning of our relationship, I stopped doing so because I could not keep up and all the practice in the world would never give me the ability to reach what he has been doing his entire adult life. Thank goodness for “E-bikes” now. With pedal assist, bike rides are now more enjoyable and don’t keep me riding by myself all the time and my hubby still gets his workout. Let me say this, I still get a workout but it’s no longer a lonely workout. Get me?
When our itinerary arrived in the mail, fear in the form of anger started to take me down the rabbit hole and I found myself ticked off that I let “him”, my husband, talk me into this. Just to be clear, he didn’t, but blaming him felt like the right thing to do because I would never do this on my own.
Then, I caught myself because I know now that FEAR really means False Evidence Appearing Real. My inner essence knows that my husband is in my life because he expands me. He grows me in ways I would never think to do on my own. I often love the accomplishments I embrace (especially when its over...lol) of my latest achievement. Whether its riding 10 miles or 50 miles a day on bikes or ATVing the back-roads of the majestic purple mountains majesty in Colorado, I have achieved some of my greatest accomplishments because of my husband.
Once I recognized the F.E.A.R. for what it was, I “allowed” myself to step into a new vision for myself. I started seeing myself in total enjoyment as I pedaled through the various back-roads of France. I envisioned the new friends I would make and if you know me personally, I love making new friends. I could see us at the Captain’s Table during dinner in a private room getting to know other couples across the world. I started envisioning the ease and flow on the daily bike rides. The next thing I realized, my inner essence was literally jumping for joy, in my mind, over the fact that I will be growing, learning, expanding, having a really, enjoyable time and I was so happy. I was able to pivot from blame and FEAR toward growth and joy.
You see, fear really helps us get more in touch with what we want if we can catch our thoughts and instead allow new and different thoughts that feel more fun and joyful. Typically, we allow the fear to grow, which is simply just negative thoughts getting out of control and becoming larger and scarier than the actual experience will be. The fear is simply a thought and I get to choose if I will allow that thought to take me down the rabbit hole or grow me into more joy. I choose joy, every time! AND, I’m getting better at choosing the thoughts that work for me instead of the thoughts that work against me on a daily, moment-by-moment practice to notice when something gives me a negative hit, and to more fully understand that I can control where I go from there.
What’s got you fearful?
What is negatively affecting you?
Terri O'Donnell is a certified Life Coach. She is an honest, straight shooter who is dedicated to using her training and experience to help people live the life they desire.