Every day, people buy too much stuff, eat too much food, and waste away their hours chasing after happiness…to no avail. They may find excitement or satiation, but TRUE HAPPINESS still eludes them.
Fortunately, happiness is really inexpensive and pretty simple to find, but that doesn’t mean that it comes easily. However, if you’re bold, and truly willing to commit to a few simple steps, happiness will be yours. Try this:
Becoming happy may mean “looking silly” sometimes or changing A LOT of your current habits, but I promise you…it sure beats the alternative.
What can YOU do to create more happiness in your life TODAY?
No matter what happens in your life, where you go, or whom you encounter, the common denominator is always YOU.
It may seem that the outside world has a big influence on your happiness, but the fact is that there are blissful people living in abject poverty, and miserable wrecks living in penthouse apartments with all the material comforts the world can offer.
This goes to show that happiness is truly an inside job.
If you are struggling to find happiness in your life, here are three simple tips to help you shift your perspective and move toward happiness at a moment’s notice.
There’s enough misery in the world. Do your part to tip the scales toward love, acceptance and true contentment, and you’ll be happy no matter where you are.
What will YOU do to generate happiness for yourself today?
Emotional Intelligence is one of the most fruitful traits you can cultivate in today’s world. Thanks to the internet and the resulting global market, we have more connections than ever before, most of them digital. However, one thing we still can’t get from our all-powerful devices is human connection.
And in a world dominated by technology, a never-ending to-do list, and the convenient separation that results from abundant individual wealth, it seems that human connection is the very thing we long for and seek out above all else.
We all want to see and be seen, to be heard and understood. We long to feel our feelings and know that someone gets us. And to connect with others on a more meaningful level. This is the essence of Emotional Intelligence (EQ).
While some people certainly seem to be gifted in empathy and connection, EQ is absolutely a learnable skill. You don’t have to be born into a family of therapists to know how to read someone’s emotions and respond appropriately.
But ‘family’ does help. The number one best thing you can do to start cultivating your own ‘family’ of support is to surround yourself with emotionally intelligent people. As the old saying goes, if you’re hanging out with 4 awesome people, you’re likely to be the 5th.
Look around your communities, pick out the good listeners, and start developing relationships with them. Find the people who don’t redirect conversations when they get uncomfortable, but rather lean in and ask questions. Pursue those who are on their own quest toward personal excellence. Engage with those who are attuned to their bodies…dancers, yogis, massage therapists. And while you’re at it, you might even want to hire a good coach or therapist – emotional intelligence is their job, after all!
As you build your emotional dream team, remember to cultivate your own listening/feeling abilities so that you can more easily connect with them. Practice active listening…it’s a defining trait of people with high EQ’s. Strive towards becoming your best you. And above all, be easy with yourself in the process. You’re learning something new, and that takes patience and compassion.
Who Comes to Mind When You Think about Building
Your Emotional Dream Team?
Terri O'Donnell is a certified Life Coach. She is an honest, straight shooter who is dedicated to using her training and experience to help people live the life they desire.